Friday, November 14, 2008

Wedding Bells...

...had ya scared for a min huh... No NOT MINE... jeje... You can pick yourself off the floor, NOW... jeje. This weekend one of Rodrigo's cousins is getting married and I find the whole thing a bit odd, strange... and rushed...

Rody told me about the wedding in July (preggers?? maybe... ;-) Which, not to spread family gossip on the internet (especially when it's not my fam), is not the only one taking place this year. Or so I've heard from the chismosos (you know who you are). Protection people JEESH! To add a bit of commentary on this front I think that it's a lot more common to marry the baby's daddy here than in the states. At least from my point of view. And honestly I dont think it's always the best decision.

Furthermore the rushed wedding atmosphere has led to some family feuding. OF COURSE! I love large families. I feel like I get the tv novela without having to pay for cable. Bride's side of the family seems a bit... how would you say it... CHEEP in all the wrong places. I cant tell you how long I talked with rodi's mom about the enormous cake etc but when it came down to the seating chart, there just wasnt going to be room for everyone. Having watched several brides struggle with numbers, I understand and sympathize with the suffering. HOWEVER, the entire groom's family was to be left out of the PAAARRTTTYYY. jeje...Luckily things have been financially sorted so I will get to eat my cake... yummy.

But this all brings up some interesting points about not marrying too young or more appropriately too RUSHED. Familia assistance when it comes to the big day is almost a necessity these days with thousands of dollars in a cake alone. And the push and pull that comes with that assistance I feel greatly depends on how much you put up for your own big day. Or that neighbor kid you hate will screech through your vows because your rents are friends with his rents. I'm not quite sure what where or who I would like at my wedding but what I do know is that the save the date card will not be arriving on your doorstep only three months before the big show. Proper Prior Planning Prevents Piss Poor Performance (As my mother would shout). The pressure on this couple specifically is quite obvious... I really hope the happy day is happy... and not a dud or dramatic or regretted... When in doubt just sit there, wait a second...

That brings up the other unfortunate yet superficial side to a rushed wedding. If you dont give us, the guests, time to shop we're screwed. In my opinion, in the states, you dont need to wear anything fancy to a wedding. A nice skirt, summer dress, or pants and blouse are COMPLETELY acceptable. But once again, Katie was SHOT DOWN. I was informed recently that I should be wearing a long evening gown type thing (too bad I havent trucked the formal dresses down yet). This all happened while looking at bridal magazines with Rody's aunt and mom. Let's not even get started on the insinuations... So not only do I have to try and find a dress that appropriate (KEY PROBLEM) osea not too short or skanky but in minimal time. I have officially given up on the idea and am going with the cute skirt idea but I hope I'm not judged too harshly.


On a side note can I also point out that large family events in general freak me out. And that's with my OWN family. At least in my own family I know the dynamics... and who to avoid. When navigating a significant other's family it's like dodging land mines. I'm always worried about saying or doing the wrong thing. And what makes that even harder is that this time around I'm almost constantly reminded that I did, wore, said something COMPLETELY inappropriate. I think all would be well if my guide through the jungle wasnt the proverbial black (I dont give a fuck) sheep. They will and do love him anyway... I'm pretty much screwed. at least I asked about open bar so alvino and I will get drunk and be inappropriate together. :-) Just kidding... but I'll let you know how it goes.

3 comments:

SY said...

KT,
You crack me up! I'm sorry you're still dealing with the novela that is la vida paraguaya. Also, your own views on marriage encourage me, as I'm still completely scared of the idea, even though my own mom got married when she was twenty. Definitely go with the cute skirt. You're hot, you can rock it, and who cares...you're bound to mess up in some way in someone's eyes, so if that can be achieved at clothing, then maybe you don't have to worry about other things, jaja. Te extra├▒o mi amiga! besos.

AventuraParaguaya said...

Sooooo trueeeee.... well as it turned out I was critiqued in more than my clothing... writing the next blog now... jeje

erin said...

BEFORE i read your next post... I'm going to assume you didn't wear that shirt that we found. that would cover WAY too much skin ;)